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A Deeper Understanding Helps Overcome Fears

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acapulco-81397_640Are fears keeping you stuck?

Are they preventing you from stepping into your personal power?

Do you want to uncover the cause of your self-sabotaging fears?

Fear is the most fundamental emotion that any human can feel – and its opposite – the sense of safety and security – is the most basic human need.

Fears are deep seated and require one to work through them in a deep and thorough ways which goes beyond just a few tips and tools.

The sense of safety and security is like the foundation of a house on which you build everything else in your life. If your foundations are weak, whatever you are trying to do and build in your life later will cave in under pressure.

What lies behind fears and how is it that so many people struggle with all kinds of fears?

It is mostly because fear was embedded and anchored deeply into our subconscious mind in the earliest period of our lives, when we were babies or small children.

When we are born, the foremost need we have is to survive and feel secure and safe in our environment. Our caregivers, primarily our mother, provide this sense of safety. She provides us with the most basic trust toward life: that our most basic needs will be met and that it is safe to be and express who we are. If our mother is not able to provide us with this sense of security, very early on, we develop a basic distrust toward life. As a result, we may have formed deeply rooted subconscious beliefs that no matter what we do, we can’t be safe and our needs can’t be met.

Later on in our lives, this may play out as various kinds of fears, such as fear to express our wants and needs, fear to assert ourselves, fear to go after what we want in life or even not being fully clear what our needs are in the first place. And we wonder why some people are so confident and successful, while we can’t seem to be able to move forward in life.

As long as we are unable to recognise and understand when and how our fears have developed, we may be trying to fix them in ineffective or overly simplistic ways. We may be unable to detect the real causes and try to work on symptoms of fears that will most probably lead us anywhere.

There is an attachment theory as a psychological model that explains that as we are born, we form specific types of attachments with our primary caregivers. There are 4 kinds of attachment types and depending on which one was yours, you might have developed stronger or weaker fears. The four types are:

  1. Secure Attachment (caregivers are consistent and stable in providing care to their children and are sensitive and responsive to their needs – providing their children a sense of security and confidence),
  2. Avoidant Attachment (adults who are emotionally unavailable and thus, insensitive to their children’s needs making their children self-sufficient and independent prematurely and avoiding even trying to get their needs met from others),
  3. Ambivalent/Anxious Attachment (parents who are inconsistent, sometimes responsive and insensitive at other times, causing children to feel insecure and distrustful, never knowing what to expect from others) and
  4. Disorganised Attachment (families with physical or emotional abuse causing children to freeze and dissociate from their feelings as a way to deal with overwhelming experiences).

These attachment styles are formed during the first two years of our lives and form a pattern that later reflects in intimate relationships we form with other people. Your particular type of attachment will largely influence your expectations from others (both good and bad) and what you deem is possible for you in life (whether your needs will be met and whether it is safe for you to assert and fulfill them).

If there was a repeated pattern of negative feedback and negative circumstances that we have experienced as a child, or worse, a serous trauma, fears develop as a self-preserving behaviour covering up deeper wounds and hurts. You may have been deeply hurt and wounded if your mother (and both parents) were experiencing  negative emotions or depression, if they were perfectionist, very critical, judgemental, very demanding or were punishing you (let alone  worst cases of dysfunctional family patterns such as abuse and trauma). Fears which are formed from such life experiences are simply a self-preserving mechanism. All negative and strong emotions we felt as children are then pushed down into the subconscious so that we can deal with them later when we grow up and get mature enough.

When we were babies or small children, we were completely dependant on our parents for survival (both physical, as well as emotional). We were small, vulnerable, fragile and resourceless. From that resourceless state, any negative emotion imprinted on us left us feeling completely powerless and this is one of the reasons why fears may keep us so stuck in our lives, as this illusion of powerlessness and resourcelessness is still echoing in us. As an adult, you have developed many skills, qualities and resources that will enable you to face and overcome your fears and expand your capacity to process negative emotions and transform them.

If you’re struggling to overcome particular fears, start observing what kind of situations and emotions you are trying to avoid and what wound lies beneath your fears and see what connection you can make with what you might have experienced as a young child. Overcoming your fears will be possible when you have fully understood and worked through your deepest wounds and your core negative beliefs.

About the Author:

KatarinaSupicicKatarina Supicic is a Transformational Holistic Life Coach and a therapist of integrative psychotherapy, with training in multiple modalities. She offers breakthrough workshops on depression and anxiety, fears, low self-confidence, identifying and releasing negative beliefs and many more topics.

A consciousness journey metaphor

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“The perfect journey is circular… the joy of departure and the joy of return.”
— Dino Basili

Understanding the bigger picture of life helps bring meaning to our challenges

Imagine the journey of life as a simple circle. If we drew a circle on paper, we would write ‘Source/Universal/God/Spirit/Love…’ at a point at the top of the circle. This point represents both the beginning and the end of our journey.

What? At the end of it all, we end up where we started? Why bother? Well, we can only speculate here but perhaps the whole purpose to the life cycle is to allow us to experience our own growth and expansion. And certainly growth seems to be the nature of the game when we look at evolution from the standpoint of three distinct phases.

For human beings, the first stage of the journey could be called the Path of Personality Development. We arrive on Earth at birth as a precious and unconscious bundle of love. From that moment on, we absorb, respond to and learn from the many influences around us. Watching and mirroring our parents and guardians, we gradually perceive ourselves as an individual separate from others. We adopt beliefs, opinions, preferences, characteristics and habits. Our ego and personality take shape as we slowly grow and evolve physically, emotionally and mentally. As we get more and more involved with the world around us, we lose touch with our true higher nature.

The Path of Personality explores the experience of pleasures, separation and duality. As personalities, we believe in individuality and we buy into the prevailing model of limitation, scarcity, materialism and competition. This phase is characterized by attachment, distortion, coping, self-centeredness, outer focus and judgment. These beliefs in separation give rise to fear, pain and pride, and because we believe power to be ‘out there,’ we are prone to seeing ourselves as victims.

Two thirds of the way down the circle of life we reach an important TRANSITION POINT where the focus of our lives shifts significantly. This point is often triggered by recurring suffering and crises and it brings a new awareness and awakening. Essentially, at this point we know life can be better and we vow to make it happen.

Passing this first major transition point, we embark upon the Path of Growth. We realize there is some order and meaning to our challenges, that the struggles can bring learning and change. We begin to search for truths. We develop character, skills, morals and values. We eagerly explore how to make sense of our new world. We take courses, read books and try new techniques as we look for answers. Our awareness increases, our worldview expands and we have a sense of control and influence in our lives. We have more clarity around what we want in life and confidence that we can make this happen. We take more responsibility for our thoughts, emotions and actions. Our thinking, wisdom and consciousness expand.

As we move past the bottom of the circle and up the other side, we start our return journey. We may feel better about ourselves as we purposefully handle life and our growth. But then we hit a second major TRANSITION POINT that may once again be characterized by crises and suffering. At this stage, we become aware of the need to give up the ego. As mature as our personality has become, it is still rooted in duality and therefore illusion. And so we embark upon the Path of Higher Self.

In the last two thirds of our circle journey back home, we begin to see through the illusions of this material world. We begin to connect with our authentic true nature – the love, potential and wisdom that has been there supporting us all along but we were not aware of it. Many of the rules of living change; our beliefs shift and even completely dissolve as we become a human being more than a human doing.

On this path, we focus on inner work, knowing that this not only serves us but others also. We experience opening up, detachment, expansion, inclusion and evolution. We trust higher intuitive guidance as our authority and are fully accountable for all aspects of our lives. We experience more synchronicity and magic in our lives. As we let go of faulty beliefs, we allow our soul to genuinely express through us. We naturally are more authentic and purposeful. Personal will gives way to divine will.

As unique expressions of the divine, our journeys through these different chapters of life expand consciousness.

Where might you place yourself on this circle of life? Are you traveling the path of personality development? Have you moved through your first transition point where your focus has shifted from the outer world to your inner world? Or have you turned back towards home with a growing awareness of your spiritual essence?

Please don’t judge any step of the life path as more important or advanced than the others. Wherever we are, it’s perfect!

John Robson
Consciousness Journey

A definition of consciousness.

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What is consciousness?

The two of us have come to appreciate that personal growth and fulfillment arise when we raise our consciousness. So what exactly is consciousness?

In an attempt to answer this, we have scoured the Internet. We’ve read lots of books and attended courses. We’ve found that the word ‘consciousness’ is used in many different ways. It’s not easy to grasp definitions by scientists, academics and philosophers that embrace the infinite, the cosmos, spirit, soul, mind, micro-cosmos and quantum physics.

It seems many perceive consciousness to be an infinite field of energy that includes all forms and the history and potential of all existence. As individuals, we have a present level of consciousness, can raise our consciousness and are an integral part of infinite consciousness. How we identify with ourselves and life depends on our own consciousness level.

The two of us have personally experienced shifts in consciousness and we know directly its power to create miracles and transform our lives. As a result, we want to demystify consciousness so we can more easily grasp how to work with it to improve our quality of life.

Why does this matter?

If we want a happier, healthier, more meaningful life, then we need to live more and more consciously in each moment. We can raise consciousness when we expand our understanding of and alignment with our innate nature. And as we raise our own consciousness by setting clear intentions, we support increasing consciousness on the planet.

As we participate in higher consciousness, we begin to grasp just how much we create our own reality. These insights enable us to put ourselves more firmly in the driver’s seat. We begin to release old patterns and live with greater ease, contentment and freedom. The higher our consciousness, the more we appreciate and enjoy ourselves and the world around us.

Turn on your flashlight

Jeddah Mali describes consciousness as a tool to examine experience. She likens it to a flashlight that allows us to shine light on our experience in each moment so we can see it clearly.

We find this metaphor to be particularly helpful. With a flashlight, we can explore everything in life. The quality of our view depends on whether the flashlight beam is focused or scattered and whether it is strong like a flood light or weak from low batteries. Our view with our flashlight can be as powerful as sunlight or dark because it is turned off. The condition of our flashlight and our skill in handling it create our unique view and experience of the world.

Unlike plants and animals, we humans have the ability to be self-aware. We possess both the mental capacity and the will to pay attention to our experiences and choose a higher state. We can proactively raise our perspective, motivation, intentions, focus – our level of consciousness. And perhaps that is our main purpose in life – to shift our ability to perceive life and who we are to a higher level.

To raise our consciousness, we must expand our sense of ourselves and what’s possible for us. Imagine you are in a glass elevator. As the elevator rises, you see an increasingly larger view of what’s around you. You get a bigger and bigger picture of life. As our vision expands, we experience more interconnections, finer distinctions and more meaning and purpose. All the puzzle pieces fall into place in a larger, connected pattern. From a higher perspective the parts make more sense.

If we want to raise the consciousness of a situation, we need to expand the possibilities for that situation. To do this, we can make our response and/or intention more qualitative, loving, beautiful, natural, altruistic, spiritual, inclusive, impersonal and universal.

Mapping the consciousness journey

As we have explored our own consciousness, we have discovered that there are signposts or markers that reflect our level of consciousness back to us. Others have described many levels of consciousness; however, we think the consciousness journey can be described more simply. We have defined in clear and easy terms, three levels of consciousness and the experiences that accompany them. These levels serve as gentle guides for where we are on our journey through life.

The three levels can be described in many different ways from different perspectives. Here are just a few examples of how we’ve defined these three stages of consciousness:

We move from:

  1. coping through our fears, powerlessness and reactions because we lack self-knowledge and an awareness of options
  2. to learning to be self-aware and to make conscious, supportive choices
  3. to surrendering to our higher guidance.

We shift from acting from:

  1. instinct,
  2. to intellect
  3. to intuition.

We move from

  1. dependence
  2. to independence and then
  3. to interdependence.

Let’s travel together

At Higher Awareness, we are actively exploring life through these three levels. We invite you to join us, to experiment with these perspectives so you can experience for yourself how knowing the bigger picture can significantly alter your quality of life.

The magic of shifting consciousness is that it changes the very fabric of who we are and it affects us in many more ways than we expect. Any time we develop clarity or integrity or create confidence in one aspect of our being, it affects our whole character and therefore all areas of our life.

Whether we’re happy or sad, fearful or loving, healthy or ill, our experience is rooted in our level of consciousness. It’s only when we change our consciousness that anything changes in our experience.

Please join us in stretching our frontiers of understanding and experience.

John Robson
Consciousness Journey

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